I take the long view that ending gendered violence is actually contingent on people raised to be a man learning to “love justice more than manhood” (as I put it in my book The End of Manhood). You’re right: that sounds cerebral. But so does, for instance, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Ethics is kind of by definition cerebral — meaning we as humans have the intellectual capacity to figure it out in our brains as we go along. That capacity typically gets canceled out when a person raised to be a man —someone raised to believe they must conform to an idea of real manhood—acts to seek certainty of a gender identity instead of staying centered in conscience.